OK, so yesterday I went on a rant about how women disregard and disrespect other women when they knowingly have sexual relations with a married man. Women need to change this in themselves, because obviously society seems to care less about the woman who contributed to a married man’s infidelity, and they put the entire focus on the man. Ladies, if you want to be treated equally, you need to take the good with the bad. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions, and how they affect other women.

That’s right, ladies. Make a pledge right now to consider how you affect other women in this world. Make your decisions with that in mind. I’m not saying you should ignore how what you do affects men, but just make sure you are true to other women. Be the kind of woman that could be alone with someone’s husband and regardless of how sexy, smart, rich, or famous he is, you would keep your girl bits to yourself. Imagine a world of women like that. I mean it would almost wipe out infidelity (of course there is that percentage of men that cheat with someone from their own team – and these rules apply equally to them, but to keep things simple for this post I’ll keep it to a heterosexual discussion.)

Chicks Before Dicks!

Maybe you could even carry it into the workplace. Help a sister out. Be a good role model for the younger up and coming women in the company, rather than be threatened by them.

Chicks Before Dicks!

Maybe this might even help with your female friendships. Don’t treat your friends like competition. Help them look as good as they can and be as confident as they can. Even if you’re all single and vying for that elusive “perfect guy”.

Chicks Before Dicks!

Maybe you could be a good role model for your daughter, neice, or other younger family member. Teach her to abide by the rule of honoring other women. OK, you might wanna change up the phrase to make it kid-friendly, but the concept is applicable for all ages. In fact the earlier a girl learns to respect other women, the better. And in learning that women are worthy of respect, she’ll gain self-respect too.

Chicks Before Dicks!

What other aspect of your life could benefit from this concept?….

I’ve been stewing about this for a while and decided to vent. Now before I go on my rant, I want to say that I think what Tiger Woods did was wrong, selfish, unacceptable, and dispicable. He cheated on his wife and family repeatedly and with no regard for how it would affect others. He deserves the scruitiny and shame he’s been getting, and then some. But….(you knew there was gonna be a but) what I want to know is where are the public apologies from the women Tiger Woods was with?

As they say, it takes two to tango, and this is no exception. The women that had sexual relations with Tiger Woods are equally to blame and it’s my opinion that each and every one of them should have to publicly apologize as well. Now, normally there might be the excuse that these sluts (yes, I think they’re sluts – and I don’t use that word lightly) didn’t know he was a married man. Yeah. Except that he is one of the most recognizable people on the planet. I’m not a golf fan, and in fact I have never purposefully watched a golf game, on TV or otherwise. I also don’t watch a lot of sports news, regular news, or really much TV in general. But I know exactly who the hell Tiger Woods is! And so did these bitches (OK, tryin’ to be nice) ladies. And yet despite – and probably because – they new EXACTLY who he was, they f’d him. Many of them more than once!

I know that sex and power, and specifically celebrity are persuasive creatures. And I understand that sometimes feelings, especially of a sexual nature are difficult to ignore. I get it. But seriously, ladies! I really have a hard time understanding how you could knowingly do that kind of damage to another human being – another woman. What happened to girl power? What happened to doing the right thing for another woman in the world? Oh yeah, women don’t seem to have too great of a track record when it comes to that. The guys, they have their saying “Bros before ho’s.” Where’s our saying? Maybe it’s becuase we don’t subscribe to that concept, but I’m gonna start a movement! I’m gonna coin a phrase, and maybe it’ll catch on – in word and in deed:

Chicks Before Dicks! Chicks Before Dicks! Chicks Before Dicks! (see, doesn’t that feel good to say?)

In fact, I think this concept deserves it’s own post, so I’ll just end this and say that this will be continued!

To the ladies that contributed to Tiger’s infidelity, I am waiting to hear your apology. I’ll bet I’m not the only one!

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Wow, I can’t beleive it’s been two years since I started this little blog. I have been working on it only part time since I have family and work responsibilities, but hopefully there’s a few of you out there that have stuck with me. I will continue on a part time basis, with the hope that some day I’ll be able to devote more time to O4Her.

In celebration of the anniversary, I’ve decided to change the look of my blog (if you’ve been here before, I’m guessing you already noticed!)

Best wishes to each of you, and hope to see you back here soon.

XOXOXO,
Marie

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I know, it sounds lame – especially if you ARE single. You are probably saying, yeah – you go love YOURSELF, beeyotch! But sometimes something cliche can still be good. When was the last time you pampered yourself? When was the last time you devoted a whole day – even a whole hour - to indulging your every whim (OK, well maybe not your EVERY whim, but at least one or two…)? Well, why not use Valentines Day as an excuse to do just that?

I challenge you to come up with a day just for YOU. I realize you may not be able to “get away” from work/family/life, so if you can’t devote a whole day, at least devote part of the day – even if it’s just 60 minutes. I’ll list some ideas off the top of my head, but obviously you know yourself best and could come up with things that are perfect for you. In fact – I wanna hear some of your ideas, so I invite you to show me some love with a comment and your own list. Here’s mine:

. Massage
. Mani-Pedi
. Chocolate/Dessert
. Comfort Food
. Glass of Wine/Pretty Umbrella Drink
. Bubble Bath (candles, music, etc.)
. Shopping
. Leisurely Hike
. Fire in the fireplace
. Curl up with a good book
. Some one-on-one time with Bob*

No doubt you have your own personal activities that make you feel good, but the key is to make it about YOU, and make it fun. For some of you this may be difficult because most women – even the single ones - are so programmed to keep others in mind, do things for others, and you have come to believe that anything else is selfish. I’m here to tell you it’s not. Do something for yourself, by yourself. You do not NEED anyone. You do not need to be NEEDED by anyone. Make Valentines a celebration of loving yourself. You deserve it!

*Bob = Battery Operated Boyfriend (ya know, your favorite “toy”)