I actually came across the Our Porn, Ourselves website while checking out Facebook pages that had the word “porn” in them (long story for another post, but since FB has a strict no porn rule, I just wanted to see what they infact DID allow…) Anyway, one of the first on the list was “Our Porn, Ourselves”, and I went over and checked out their website. It was no surprise to me to learn that the organizer is one of the best voices today about women and porn: Violet Blue (her blog is on my blogroll already.)

Now, this is my kind of website! Although it’s a resource for smart, feminist women that are curious (or already know) about how they can enjoy porn, all genders are welcome. It also brings awareness about the very obnoxious anti-porn movement, their deceptive tactics, and the concern we should all have about it’s affect on our rights in this country. Like I said – my kind of site!

Anyway, I highly recommend you check it out. And I dare you to “Like” their page on Facebook!

Adam & Eve adult movies have gone mobile! Now, I don’t know if you have yet attempted to watch porn on your mobile device, but let’s just say that for most websites, it ain’t pretty (even when the performers are)! So, imagine my excitement when I learned of this latest launch. It’s a website formatted specifically for your mobile device. And not just any site. Not just any porn. But Adam & fricken’ Eve! I think the adult industry is finally starting to wake up and realize that porn for women can be cutting edge too! YAY!!!!

Ladies, gone are the days where the only male pornstar anyone recognizes is Ron Jeremy! No offence to Ron – I’m sure he’s a nice guy and all – but, um…..EWWWWWW!!!! I don’t care how big your dick is, dude, you’re not puting that thing anywhere near me. What kind of gal would honestly be sexually attracted to a guy nicknamed “The Hedgehog”?! I mean, seriously people! On the other hand, there are plenty of other male pornstars out there that – hypothetically, of course – I would be totally OK with their dick near me, hell IN me! (Did I just say that?….hee hee). But I digress…

The age of sexy male pornstars has arrived! And lucky for us, it has coincided with the age of porn to mainstream crossovers, so you can get an “R” rated peek before investing in the “XXX” stuff. Case in point: male porn star and hot guy  Tommy Gunn will make a guest appearance on an upcoming episode of HBO’s “Entourage” (one of my favorite shows, by the way!) If you recall I previously posted about Sasha Grey landing a recurring role on the hit TV show – playing herself, and it’s no coincidence that Tommy’s role is related (he plays her “ex”.) I already have my DVR set to record this new season, and I can’t wait to see Vincent and the boys interact with the world of adult entertainment!

According to this article anyway! What I found fascinating were the various reasons women cheat, which are totally different than men (no surprise there, but still fascinating!) Now of course one set of statistics from one website does not provide enough data to truly make the statement that more women cheat than men, but this certainly is a wake up call for women (and men!) to look at themselves. The statistics show that unlike men who usually cheat out of a basic sexual desire, women cheat for more emotional reasons, mainly revenge. Duh! Well boys, you know the saying: “Hell hath no fury like a woman’s wrath.” Think about that the next time you piss off your chick! The second reason for cheating women (other than revenge) is for sexual fulfillment which is not being met by their partner. Again, duh! Could it be that women too want sexual fulfillment? Tell me it isn’t so! It’s surprising in this day and age of relative sexual maturity that many women are not getting what they need sexually. Who’s to blame? My opinion is that both men and women are to blame. And if we could ever figure out how to fix the problem, I would guess that there would be a decline of cheating from both camps…..Just my two cents…

What do you think? Do you believe that more women cheat than men? Do you think women are more justified or less justified because of the reasons? Who is to blame and why? How do we try and avoid or fix these problems? Tell me your thoughts….

That’s right, folks! Gay pride is ALL GOOD! Forget all that guilt-ridden, hateful religious crap. Just love your brothers and sisters in the world, unconditionally. Love and tolerance is at the center of every worthwhile religion, regardless of how it is twisted by ignorant and fearful people. I’m not asking you to go out and march – although that would be cool too – but in your own way, take a moment today to honor those in the world who are strong enough to come out into this judgemental world and say, “I’m gay and I’m proud!” There is nothing more courageous than being who you are, despite being told you are wrong and bad and evil and going to hell. I am proud of all my gay friends and family – and gay people everywhere out there, living their lives as they should. Proud. Honest. With Love.

God Bless You, gay people of the world!

Whew, what a day. I attended the XFanz Expo at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas this last Friday. Despite being Vegas in June, the weather was pretty reasonable. I arrived at about noon, which is early according to “porn star time”. It’s kinda like “rock star time”. Anyway, after a couple hours, things were cookin’. The boobies were *almost* out (dang Hard Rock and it’s rules!), the costumes and bathing suits were outrageous, and the music was pumpin’. There were all kinds of booths, giving away such sinful items as penis and boob necklaces, lube, and male enhancement supplements (of course no guy was found hanging out around that booth! I’d be curious to know if they got much business done…) And there was even a booth that was previewing their all new 3D Porn! Now, at first I have to admit I was a doubter, but they slapped those 3D glasses on me and sat me down, and WOW! It was cooler than I thought!

In addition to the booths, there were all kinds of porn stars (see the article below for more details), including my favorite of the day: Lupe Fuentes. She is gorgeous, super petite, and has the most amazing ass EVER!!! I was fortunate enough to see it up close (no, not THAT close – dang it!) and I can truly say I have never seen such a gorgeous ass – it’s perfect! No wonder she caught the attention of Evan Seinfeld (I mean, where do you go after you’ve been with Tera Patrick, for Christsakes?!)

Anyway, about the ony thing that was NOT hot was the freakin’ pool. It wasn’t just cold, it was downright FREEZING! I mean, seriously, they had to have actually cooled the water down. And it’s not just because I’m a wuss when it comes to cold water (which I am), it was evident because there were like four people in the whole pool. Freakin’ ridiculous in my opinion. I mean, hello Hard Rock people!!!!

Well, I guess that about sums up the day from my perspective. I hope you enjoyed my little report. Check out the link below for the official XBiz article:

How many times have you heard that if a woman calls a guy “nice”, it’s like the kiss of death? Yep, if I had a nickel for every time…(you know the rest). And despite the logic, I tend to think there is some truth to that statement. However misguided, however crazy, most women don’t want Mr. Sensitive Ponytail Man (I know, I’m dating myself by quoting from the movie Singles…lol.) Anyway, I think many women fantasize about being taken by some bad-ass dude, and in the real world they end up falling for an asshole.

And herein lies the disconnect, as I see it. Women don’t actually want a bad-ass (except in their fantasies – hey, I’ll admit to daydreaming about being with a rugged – but still good looking – Harley guy). OK, before I digress into my fantasies, let’s get back on track. Most women don’t actually want a bad-ass, but they do want a man who is confident. Unfortunately, many ladies out there have a difficult time distinguishing between “confident” and “asshole”, and wind up with the latter. So, here are some suggestions on how you can tell the difference:

Confident: He walks across the room, looks you in the eyes and says, “Would you like to dance?”
Asshole: He struts across the room, looks at your rack, and says, “How YOU doin”?”

Confident: He makes reservations at a restaraunt for your first date
Asshole: He orders your food for you

Confident: He tries to teach you his favorite sport/activity while making sure you’re having fun
Asshole: He tries to teach you his favorite sport/activity and is more concerned about how he performs

Confident: He kisses you passionately, picks you up, and carries you to the bedroom
Asshole: He grabs your boobs, feels you up, and drops his pants right then and there

OK, enough with the comparisons. I know those ones are pretty easy, but hopefully the concept will help you for when the differences are more subtle. When in doubt, ask yourself, “Confident? Or Asshole?”  And although an asshole is rarely nice (except to get what he wants), might I be so bold as to suggest that a confident guy can - and should - be “nice”. Women don’t have to put up with an asshole, and they don’t have to settle for Mr. Sensitive – there is another option!

One last thought. I think that all men (and women for that matter) are capable of the spectrum, so just because your guy has a momentary lapse of judgement and tries on the asshole hat temporarily, that doesn’t mean you should dump him immediately. It does mean that you should not let him get away with it. Trust me, my husband will be the first to tell you that if he’s out of line (which is rare), I have NO problem saying, “Honey, you’re being an ASS!” Of course, usually I get better results when I point it out in a less “in your face” kinda way, but one way or another I get my point across. He may jokingly complain about how it sucks that I don’t put up with any shit, but I remind him that he wouldn’t be attracted to me if I was weak.

Which of course brings us full circle. The kind of guy that’s mature enough to be “confident” instead of an “asshole”, is also the kind of guy that expects the same from the woman he’s with. So I guess I’ll have to do a follow-up to this post, which would be: Ladies, don’t be a bitch, just be confident. Stay tuned….

Why is it that Europe and Canada are so much more sexually open (and healthy, IMHO) than America? Is it our puritan roots? Our Christian Right groups? Politics? Greed? Male ego? Who knows – I guess that’s a post for another time. I don’t feel like getting on my soap box today, so I’ll just keep it short and give you a link about something I WISH were available to Americans…..*sigh*…..

I’m so excited! One of my favoriate porn stars, Sasha Grey, will play a recurring role on the upcoming season of one of my favorite TV shows, “Entorage”! Can’t wait!!