Do you think you’re too old for “trick or treat” this Halloween? Nonsense! This year, surprise your lover with your own private session, and you’re sure to get a treat or two for yourself! There are such a variety of options available. In addition to the more classic selections of sexy lingerie, you can also find sexy costumes such as “Naughty Maid“, “Sergeant Sexy“, or “Head Nurse“. Whether you want to add to the game with some role-playing, or just walk into the room and knock the socks off your mate, you’ll find a great selection of sexy costumes at one of my favorite sex toy stores, EdenFantasys.com.

Do something a little unexpected this Halloween. C’mon, I DARE ya!

Babeland, one of my favorite sex toy web sites, is celebrating it’s 15 year anniversary this month. What does this mean to you? It means you can buy their top 15 toys at a 15% discount! Yes, 15 is your new lucky number! Along with the discount, you will also receive a free bottle of Fresh Organic Lube with your purchase of the SaSi Vibrator, and a free Afterglow Candle with your purchase of the original Form 6 and Waterproof Form 6. If you are not familiar with those toys, I highly suggest you check them out (and the awesome customer reviews) over at Babeland!

In addition to the sale, Babeland is running a contest to give away a basket of ALL 15 Babeland All Stars (a value of $1,200) to customers who sign up for their Newsletter with the All Star Contest.
One of the 15 toys, and also one of the most popular sex toys around, is the Hitachi Magic Wand (see the picture above).  You should just read the Babeland customer reviews of this thing!  With over 100 reviews, it has a 5 star rating!  It’s moved to the top of my wish list for sure!!! (Hopefully my dude will read this not so subtle *HINT*!)  And if he doesn’t see or get the hint, I’ll gladly take matters into my own hands….literally!  He he he…..

Happy Anniversary Babeland!

About Babeland:
Babeland is recognized around the world as a friendly place to shop for sex toys, books, and videos. It is the premier bi-coastal, women-friendly sex toy store with a new shop in Brooklyn, two locations in New York City, a flagship store in Seattle, and a website: www.babeland.com. Founded in 1993, Babeland has received numerous honors in its fifteen years of business, including Zagat Survey Awards for “Top Service” in New York City in 2003 and 2006. It was voted “Best Place to Buy Sex Toys” by The Village Voice, New York Magazine, New York Press, Miami New Times, Seattle’s The Stranger, and the Seattle Weekly. Co-Founders Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah have been hailed as “new generation sex gurus” by Self Magazine.

OK, so I’m pretty liberal when it comes to females being viewed as sexual beings (notice I did NOT say sexual OBJECTS.)  There are many contexts where I think it is perfectly acceptable to see women as being sexual (porn, in particular cuz let’s face it - that’s what it’s all about!)  Strippers fall into this category too - they are there to be sexy/sexual for their clients.  Again, that’s what it’s all about.  You know where this is going - I’m going to tell you that there ARE contexts where I think women are treated as sexual objects.  Where men (and shockingly enough OTHER WOMEN) have sexist viewpoints.  And yes, I am going to give you an example. ***WARNING: I am setting up my soap box and stepping on up…***

So, last night my dude and I were spending some rare and much needed down-time in front of the TV.  Usually when I watch TV I want it to be mindless entertainment, which is exactly why we were watching an episode of MTV Cribs.  And along came Dale Earnhardt, Jr. with his palatial estate.   After a lengthy tour around his impressive home, he headed out to show off his arsenal of cars.  I think there were about 5 in all, and standing next to each one of them was a hot chick, with a dumb-ass grin, dressed in a skimpy bikini. Just standing there.  Next to the car.  Dumb-ass grins - every one of ‘em.  They weren’t doing anything - not even a little “Vanna White” action with their arms.  Nope, they were just standing there lookin’ purdy.  Now, I realize WHY they were there, but seriously, WHY were they there?  I know, I know - chicks and cars.  They go together.  Dudes LOVE chicks and cars - always have, probably always will.  And for a nice poster, I’d have to agree they make a nice combo.  But for showing off cars on MTV Cribs?  They served absolutely NO useful purpose.  As one who enjoys looking at cars, and beautiful women, I found it downright distracting.  This was Dale’s car collection, so I’m assuming I’m supposed to be paying attention to the cars?  Should I look at the women as though they were also a collection?  Was the woman supposed to be displaying the car, or was she PART of the display?  And if so, why didn’t Dale say - and here is my harem?  He took the time to name and give general details of each car but not so much as an acknowledgment of the chick standing next to it.  So, I gather the cars were more a priority.  The woman was just a “prop”.  And more questions swirl around in my head.  Were the cars not beautiful enough to stand on their own?  Did these ladies get paid, and if so how much?  Were they just models from an agency?  (Call me crazy but, I’d pose for Playboy for FREE before I’d do a gig like that for money! Even I have my limits!)  And no doubt there were women participating in the production of this episode - for Chrissakes the producer of Cribs is a woman - I wonder what they thought?.  Most likely these women have had their own experiences of being treated as only a vagina.  Forgive me for being crass, but I find the whole thing disgusting.  Am I making too much of something that most likely was just “a cute little idea”?  Perhaps.  Could this one portrayal of women make a negative impact on women and men watching it?  Probably not just that one, but it’s that one and the deluge of other instances like it that start to add up.  After constantly seeing women as objects, do we not tend to become numb to it’s subtle effect upon our psyches and self-esteem?  Our viewpoint and treatment of women?

But hey, I’m realistic.  I know many folks in this world are sexist.  Geez, I live in Vegas, where every other billboard/taxi/local magazine has a half-naked woman on it.  I get it.  And somehow in this sexist world  there are still many amazing women who posses self-esteem, wit, integrity, and honor (even women raised in *gasp* Las Vegas!).  So, what is my conclusion?  Well, this was more of a rant than a profound social commentary.  I may not be able to make much of an impact on the world, but I can have a big impact on at least two people in it.   And I will do my damndest to teach my daughter (and just as importantly, my son) the difference between a “sexual being” and a “sexual object”.  This may not keep her from posing for Playboy some day, but I sure hope it keeps her from competing in a beauty contest with a Corvette.

I am pleased to announce that one of my BBF’s, Traci, will be joining me here at O4Her to add her “two cents”.  I will let her introduce herself, but suffice it to say you are in for a treat!  This girl is as witty as they come, and is very open and honest about her sexuality.  It would be extremely difficult to make either of us blush, so no doubt we are in for some great discussions.  So, keep an eye out for Traci’s intro, and for her ongoing contributions!

Porn for Women: 100 Movies for Gals Who Want to Explore

Having a hard time finding porn that satisfies a woman’s desires?  Click on the above link to check out this great new article over at Gamelink.com. This is exactly the kind of thing that I love finding! It’s informative, written well, and and is very organized. It starts out with some general information about women and their preferences for porn, what’s behind it, and the trends Gamelink.com sees from their female consumers. It even addresses the difficulties women face in finding the type of porn they’re looking for. Following the information is the top 100 list. What’s great about this list is that not only does it show the title of the movie, but also the category (alt, woman-directed, classics, etc.), and also some notes (generally what the movie is about.) This can really help you reduce the time you spend in browsing for what you like.

In addition to great articles like this one, and the tons of movies they provide (DVD and VOD), they also have a great selection of toys and apparel, live cams, reviews, and top-notch customer service. I have added Gamelink.com to my shopping list in the right column, for easy future reference. Go check ‘em out!

It had been a week since I’d seen him. I had been distracted and displaced by a week-long trip with the kids to visit family. He had to stay home and work. In the whirlwind that is coming home, with suitcases, stuffed animals, and half-empty juice boxes, I barely had time to give the father of my children a hug and kiss. Which is why I didn’t notice that look. I didn’t know what he had planned. I mean, I KNEW what he had planned - for goodnessake I had plans of my own! Even a married mom of two has needs and desires. But I was expecting the usual. Which in his defense; in OUR defense, is not bad - and in fact is always (and I truly mean ALWAYS) a happy ending for both of us! But my husband, my soul-mate, my lover extraordinaire has been known from time to time to kick it up a notch (sorry, Emeril, I would imagine that’s not exactly what you had in mind for your signature phrase!) And so, it is no surprise that when the kids’ bedtime approached, their father was uncharacteristically involved in making sure they were P.J.’d, tooth-brushed, and tucked sweetly (and efficiently) into bed. Before I had time to consider my next move, I was being not-so-nonchalantly led to our bedroom. And before the door was partially open, I noticed the flicker that can only come from candlelight. Once completely inside, with the door closed (and locked - hey, we have no desire to scar our kids for life!), only then did I notice the transformation of our bedroom. The entire room was peppered with candles flickering and beckoning me to succumb to their romance. “Passion” by Peter Gabriel was playing on the iPod player. While I was taking in the scene, my man handed me a glass of champagne. Dang, he must have really missed me! Which works out great since I missed him too. It wasn’t long before the champagne glasses were put down, and we found ourselves making out on our bed. It’s the kind of making out where you KNOW the outcome. You KNOW you’re gonna get naked. You KNOW you’re gonna do it. There’s no question. There’s no discussion. There’s only the taking off of clothes. He kissed me passionately, and though he’s kissed me that way a thousand times, he still manages to make me feel like we are new in our relationship. Like we are still learning our rhythms, our timing, still discovering each other’s power. With our naked bodies pressed together, he slowly moves lower…..and lower…..and lower. Past my neck, with a momentary focus on my breasts, and then slowly down my stomach, he reaches….downtown. By this time I am throbbing down there, and can’t wait to feel his soft lips and tongue. He heartily obliges, with the expertise of someone who has been doing this long enough to know EXACTLY what sends me through the roof. And after providing unending moments of pleasure, he begins to move his lips back up my stomach. But before I can moan any form of complaint, his hard cock has moved in to place, and has begun to pleasure me in ways that lips cannot. And after providing unending moments of pleasure, he slowly and carefully removes it, and his lips begin the descent again. And so it goes for quite some time: a tag-team of lips and cock; oral and fucking; clit and penetration. And with each switch, it sends me further and further to the edge. In my heightened state of pleasure I can’t decide when I’d rather let myself go. Should I wait until his tongue is firmly pressed on my clit? Or perhaps while his hard cock is deep inside me? Either one would provide the exact release I’ve been craving for far too long now. I finally decide I can hold out no longer, while he happens to have his head buried between my legs. I moan - or mumble - some sort of (for lack of a better word?) warning. With both hands grasping the hair on his head, I feel the waves of ecstasy wash over me again and again….and again! Once he sees that I am basking in the beauty of it all, it doesn’t take him long to insert his cock and reach his own ecstasy, all the while I am still pressing his hips firmly into mine. After we both settle down, he rolls off of me and onto his back next to me. We both stare at the ceiling and verbally pat ourselves on our backs for still “having it” after all these years…

“Sex and relationships, infused by the brain.”

I don’t have much time these days to devote to reading other blogs, but I do have my favorites (see my list of “My Favorite Blogs”), and the one I seem to always check regularly (and the one I like to contribute comments to) is Smart Girls Who Do It. Not only are the blog post subjects interesting, but the posts (and most of the comments) are always a great read. Whether witty, funny, deep, informational, entertaining, or any combination, I always find myself getting sucked in to reading everything - even when I “don’t have the time”.  It is one of very few blogs that I get excited about when I see a new post there.  Anyway, this is a personal recommendation, so go check it out!  And let me know what you think!

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So, I consider myself to be pretty liberal when it comes to being attracted to different types of guys. I have enjoyed being intimate with a rainbow of men; of various cultures, colors, ages, backgrounds and the like. On a strictly physical standpoint, I think there are examples of good looking guys in every race on the planet, within a fairly large age-bracket, and in varying degrees of height and weight.

And this is the type of thing I was proudly explaining to a friend of mine several years ago. To which he answered - “OK, so if you are so open to dating all types of people, then how about a woman?” And he was not talking about the “one night I kinda hooked up with a girl”, or even the experimental ” lesbian phase”. He was talking about seriously maintaining a loving relationship with a female of our species. Hmmmm. A very good point, I had to admit. And my answer?: “I guess I haven’t met the woman to bring that out in me yet.” (Aside from my crush on k.d. lang, but I haven’t actually met her, so we aren’t able to put that theory to the test!) Of course I thought my answer was a pretty good one at the time, but through the years that question has surfaced in my mind many times. Yes, I am happily married to my soul-mate who just happens to be a man. No, I would not leave him for anyone - man OR woman. But on a purely hypothetical basis, I have asked myself - would I be open enough to consider a serious relationship with a woman?

I would like to say my answer is yes. I mean, love is love, right? I am a firm believer that it’s not what the person looks like, it’s who they are. And if that’s the case then it should apply to anyone at all in the human race, including folks of my own sex. Women. Chicks. Should we not all consider swinging both ways? Playing for both teams? It sure would increase the odds of finding someone, don’t you think? For women, it would be by over 50%, in fact (since women account for just over 50% of the world’s population.)

Of course I think this consideration is much easier to even entertain if you are a woman. I mean, a straight man considering playing for the other team? Yah, right! LMAO! Never. Not in a million years. What’s that? You want to remind me of the “gay for pay” straight guys that have sex with a guy on film for money? OK, maybe it’s a gay guy pretending to be straight, or maybe it really is the very example of what I’m talking about - appreciating a sexy body regardless of sex. But let’s face it, for some reason it is much easier for most folks to enjoy seeing two women together. Certainly straight men have no problem with this. OK, they downright GET OFF on the mere IDEA for goodness-sake (and that is a subject for another post!) But I have to admit that I too would rather see two women together than two men. So why is that? You would think that if straight men enjoyed seeing two women together, then straight women would like to see two men together. And yet, uh……NO! Not my favorite thing. Don’t get me wrong. I can appreciate the concept of two men together. I am a complete and 100% proponent of love/sex/whatever between two men. I think gay marriage should be legal and accepted (also another future post topic.) One of my favorite TV shows of all time is “Queer As Folk”, and I think the guy-on-guy sex scenes were instrumental and absolutely necessary. I absolutely appreciated the love and lust expressed between the characters. But honestly, as a generally straight woman (who is mildly bi-curious…?) I can say with certainty that I would rather see two women together. Any time, any place, in pretty much any and all circumstances. Why? I dunno. I would venture to guess it gets down to a purely physical instinct. Perhaps there is some scientific data/science that backs this up - which I’m sure you could find on the Internet. All I know is what comes naturally to me, and most folks I know.

So, perhaps I should make some sort of conclusion now, following my typical long-winded discourse. And here it is: Two women together? SEXY! Does this mean straight women should try dating other women? I dunno. Is it discrimination if they don’t? I dunno. Two men together? SEXY (mostly to gay men.) Does this mean straight men should try dating other men? Since I’m not a straight man, I don’t feel like I can answer this with any credibility. I’m gonna guess, though, that most straight guys would answer with a resounding “Hell NO!” Is this discrimination? I dunno. And so, the majority of my responses to the questions are?: “I dunno.”

LOL - not sure if my post contained any new/additional/helpful information or answers, but hopefully it got you thinking….That’s the best I can offer right now!

Hi folks!

I recently found this awesome website which highlights great sex-writing. I submitted a post of mine (Why the deaf are probably great lovers) this week. Please check out this weeks highlights:

Sugasm #142:

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #143? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Interludes - part 3

“He winds the rope around his hands, smoothing the kinks, and I stand there, breathing a little faster, conscious of all those eyes upon me.”

Hurts So Good

“I want you to wear the badges of sweet distress for days.”

Shower fantasy

“You don’t want to admit it, but you want me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself

Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice

Why I haven’t blogged about the Mosley case

More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

BDSM & Fetish

A bit of roleplay …

Bound, Pinched and Spanked

Club Visit, Part 1

The Coolest Bondage Fetish Edgeplay Picture Ever Taken

24/7 - Día Internacional del BDSM

Discoveries of the Domina

First Encounter: an unlikely meeting

Girls Boarding School updates. Hard Punishment

The Hottest Gas Mask Fetish Erotica I’ve Ever Read By Tina Peitsche

Leather Retreat 2008 – My Dolly

Masochism

Mr. Kink Plays With Thursday’s Child

My inner pain slut makes an appearance

Play time at Jules & Malycia’s

The Seduction of Daddy’s baby

Spanking Galleries: Punishment for pretty girl

Sex Work

A Stellar First Call

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews

Housewife on the Loose

Mz Berlin Is SICK! Unfair. New Fetish Movie With Jewell Marceau In My Clips Store

Nexus Vibro Review For Babeland

Ron Jeremy Reviews: The Max Hardcore Verdict

The World Erotic Art Museum (WEAM) and Lochai

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Carmine

Catalina loves Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes

Club Tantra: My Experience, Unabridged 3

Fiction: The Hotel, Part 2

Fiction: The Jet Setter, Part III of III

Getting to fuck the neighbor 18

Hunger

I Have a Crush

I worship your cock

A long wait

A Lovely Sexual Fantasy From A Very Special Friend

No reservations, part 5

Out of the woods - part III

The Point of Exhaustion

Popping My Cherry

Quiet as Kept

Receptacle For Your Love…

Video: Seducing a Girl (Complete)

Welcome Home

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Anna, Evi & Jula (Hegre-Art)

Brittany Fuchs

Cam2sex submits another free blowjob movie

CamWithHer blondie Elise shows round ass

Nude II

Showin’ a little ass -HNT

Sex Advice

Advice for Women on a Wife Led Marriage

Ask Miss Bliss-She leaves me tongue-tied

Going Green While Getting Down

How to have sex in a car

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Faking it

Fine Line Between Art and Porn Finer Than Ever

Half-Nekkid and Turning 40

It’s Good To Be Catalina

Love & Sex = Chemical?

Revelation

Still haven’t found what I’m looking for

“Stripper” or “Exotic Dancer?”

Why the deaf are probably great lovers

Sex Humor

How About Doing Something with that Unsightly Vagina of Yours

If Loving This Video Is Wrong, We Don’t Want to Be Right

My First Time (with a Home Pregnancy Test)