So, I consider myself to be pretty liberal when it comes to being attracted to different types of guys. I have enjoyed being intimate with a rainbow of men; of various cultures, colors, ages, backgrounds and the like. On a strictly physical standpoint, I think there are examples of good looking guys in every race on the planet, within a fairly large age-bracket, and in varying degrees of height and weight.

And this is the type of thing I was proudly explaining to a friend of mine several years ago. To which he answered - “OK, so if you are so open to dating all types of people, then how about a woman?” And he was not talking about the “one night I kinda hooked up with a girl”, or even the experimental ” lesbian phase”. He was talking about seriously maintaining a loving relationship with a female of our species. Hmmmm. A very good point, I had to admit. And my answer?: “I guess I haven’t met the woman to bring that out in me yet.” (Aside from my crush on k.d. lang, but I haven’t actually met her, so we aren’t able to put that theory to the test!) Of course I thought my answer was a pretty good one at the time, but through the years that question has surfaced in my mind many times. Yes, I am happily married to my soul-mate who just happens to be a man. No, I would not leave him for anyone - man OR woman. But on a purely hypothetical basis, I have asked myself - would I be open enough to consider a serious relationship with a woman?

I would like to say my answer is yes. I mean, love is love, right? I am a firm believer that it’s not what the person looks like, it’s who they are. And if that’s the case then it should apply to anyone at all in the human race, including folks of my own sex. Women. Chicks. Should we not all consider swinging both ways? Playing for both teams? It sure would increase the odds of finding someone, don’t you think? For women, it would be by over 50%, in fact (since women account for just over 50% of the world’s population.)

Of course I think this consideration is much easier to even entertain if you are a woman. I mean, a straight man considering playing for the other team? Yah, right! LMAO! Never. Not in a million years. What’s that? You want to remind me of the “gay for pay” straight guys that have sex with a guy on film for money? OK, maybe it’s a gay guy pretending to be straight, or maybe it really is the very example of what I’m talking about - appreciating a sexy body regardless of sex. But let’s face it, for some reason it is much easier for most folks to enjoy seeing two women together. Certainly straight men have no problem with this. OK, they downright GET OFF on the mere IDEA for goodness-sake (and that is a subject for another post!) But I have to admit that I too would rather see two women together than two men. So why is that? You would think that if straight men enjoyed seeing two women together, then straight women would like to see two men together. And yet, uh……NO! Not my favorite thing. Don’t get me wrong. I can appreciate the concept of two men together. I am a complete and 100% proponent of love/sex/whatever between two men. I think gay marriage should be legal and accepted (also another future post topic.) One of my favorite TV shows of all time is “Queer As Folk”, and I think the guy-on-guy sex scenes were instrumental and absolutely necessary. I absolutely appreciated the love and lust expressed between the characters. But honestly, as a generally straight woman (who is mildly bi-curious…?) I can say with certainty that I would rather see two women together. Any time, any place, in pretty much any and all circumstances. Why? I dunno. I would venture to guess it gets down to a purely physical instinct. Perhaps there is some scientific data/science that backs this up - which I’m sure you could find on the Internet. All I know is what comes naturally to me, and most folks I know.

So, perhaps I should make some sort of conclusion now, following my typical long-winded discourse. And here it is: Two women together? SEXY! Does this mean straight women should try dating other women? I dunno. Is it discrimination if they don’t? I dunno. Two men together? SEXY (mostly to gay men.) Does this mean straight men should try dating other men? Since I’m not a straight man, I don’t feel like I can answer this with any credibility. I’m gonna guess, though, that most straight guys would answer with a resounding “Hell NO!” Is this discrimination? I dunno. And so, the majority of my responses to the questions are?: “I dunno.”

LOL - not sure if my post contained any new/additional/helpful information or answers, but hopefully it got you thinking….That’s the best I can offer right now!

Today was the 12th annual National Day Of Silence, which supports lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students, from middle school to college.  This years Day of Silence was held in memory of Lawrence King, a 15 year old student from California who was shot and killed on February 12, by a 14 year old classmate because of King’s sexual orientation and gender expression.  The goal of the “Day of Silence” is to inspire change so that such a tragedy and others like it never happen again.

Please take the time to check out the official website:  Day Of Silence

You know, I was just going to post this information, and let it speak for itself, but during the writing of the above information, I pulled up the website and was flipping around the various pages to familiarize myself with this wonderful organization.  And my eyes kept coming back to the image of that sweet little face of Lawrence King on the front page.  As I write this now, my eyes are filled with tears at the thought that this precious child’s life was taken, and taken in such a way, for such a bullshit reason (I can’t think of a more eloquent way to say that right now!)  I can only imagine the utter despair and grief that his family and friends must be feeling still, and will probably always feel.  Having children of my own, I cannot even imagine the torture of having to deal with your own child being taken from you, let alone so tragically.  It is absolutely beyond my comprehension that human beings are capable of such wretchedness as the killing of another human being in such a manner.  I could write tons more, but words seem so inadequate.  Instead I will pray not only for dear Lawrence King and his family, but for all of the beautiful souls out there in the world that are having to deal with the hatred of anti-LGBT behavior.  I will also pray for those that oppose the LGBT community.  May each of you find peace within yourself, and in your life experience.  And may every citizen of the world recognize it’s capacity to love unconditionally.