This is no doubt a subject that we’ve all discussed, or at least thought about. But I figure I’ll weigh in on it with my two cents (woo hoo, two cliches in one sentence!) So here goes.
Ladies, don’t do it! I know, I know. It’s late, you’re tired, or you’re not comfortable expressing yourself sexually, and yet you’ve decided to go ahead and “appease” your guy with a little something-something. Hey, that’s mighty unselfish of you, girlfriend. But you’re doing yourself a disservice by faking that “O”. Yes, it’ll be over sooner. Yes, he’ll be happy because he’ll think you both got yours. But that’s where the logic ends. It’s a short-term gain, but a long-term loss. Because now he THINKS he knows how to please you. And he’ll do whatever it is he did (that didn’t do it for you), again. And again. Aaaaand, again. And if it didn’t do it for you the first time, chances are it ain’t gonna do it for you the second….or EVER. Except that now he thinks he’s found the key. The key to turning you on. And to tell him that’s not it, would be to admit it wasn’t it when he did it before. Which means you’d have to admit you faked it. Not a great thing to tell a guy. Particularly if it’s a guy you like/love/lust after.
So, it’s my suggestion that you risk the “short term” gain, and concentrate on the “long term”. If he’s not hitting the right spots, resist the urge to moan and groan like a porn star. I know – you’re good at it, and that’s awesome. When you’re actually enjoying yourself. The great thing about most guys is that when they are into you, they are eager to please, and eager to learn. So, if he’s having trouble figuring out how to push your buttons, help him out ladies! Take his hand, and put it “right there”. Tell him what to do, when to do it, for how long, and with the exact kind of pressure that drives you wild! Tell him, show him, make him understand how to send you into the orgasm stratosphere! You may have to go through a few practice sessions, but I think in most circumstances, you will reap the rewards.
