Did any of you watch Oprah yesterday afternoon? (This is actually not a question that I would normally ask, as I rarely watch Oprah – no offense to her of course – I just don’t watch TV during the day.) But I happened to find out the subject matter of her show and DVR’d it (to watch later in the evening.) The entire show was devoted to talking about Porn, Erotica, and Women. According to the stats Oprah’s folks were given, 1 in 3 consumers of online porn is female. Now, I’m generally suspect of random stats, but even if that’s an inflated number, I think it’s safe to say that more women than ever are choosing to watch porn. Although Oprah’s show presented some of the negative aspects of porn – and you’ll get no argument from me that there are negative aspects, I was pleased that she did a decent job in presenting the positive aspects as well. One of the main guests was Jenna Jameson, world-famous Porn Star. She talked about how being comfortable with your sexuality is empowering. For so long women have been told to suppress their natural instinct to want to enjoy sex. When we embrace who we are, we are more complete. Now, I’m not saying that porn is for EVERY woman. And I’m not saying you have to watch porn to be complete. But I think women watching porn is generally a good thing. Another guest on Oprah’s show was Violet Blue, well known sex educator, and author of books such as The Smart Girl’s Guide To Porn. She echoed Jenna’s point about empowerment. She also made the distinction between Erotica and Porn, saying that Erotica (or Erotic Porn) has multiple levels and therefore a deeper impact which appeals to women. Fortunately there are a few companies that produce porn that is for women, by women. I’ll go into more detail about those in another post, but rest assured you can find it if you look for it!

 So, ladies – it’s time to take empowerment to the next level! Porn is For Women Too!

This is my first attempt at erotica….and it’s dedicated to all those couples out there who have been together long enough for sex to be boring – and yet choose to make it exciting!…

It had been a week since she’d seen him. She had been distracted and displaced by a week-long trip with the kids to visit family. He had to stay home and work. In the whirlwind that is coming home, with suitcases, stuffed animals, and half-empty juice boxes, she barely had time to give the father of her children a hug and kiss. Which is why she didn’t notice that look. She didn’t know what he had planned. I mean, she KNEW what he had planned – for goodnessake she had plans of her own! Even a married mom of two has needs and desires. But she was expecting the usual. Which in his defense; in THEIR defense, was not bad – and in fact it had always been a happy ending for both of them! But her husband, her soul-mate, her lover extraordinaire had been known from time to time to kick it up a notch (sorry, Emeril, no doubt that’s not exactly what you had in mind for your signature phrase!) And so, it is no surprise that when the kids’ bedtime approached, their father was uncharacteristically involved in making sure they were P.J.’d, tooth-brushed, and tucked sweetly (and efficiently) into bed. Before she had time to consider her next move, she was being not-so-nonchalantly led to their bedroom. And before the door was partially open, she noticed the flicker that can only come from candlelight. Once completely inside, with the door closed (and locked – hey, no need to scar the kids for life!), only then did she notice the transformation of their bedroom. The entire room was peppered with candles flickering and beckoning her to succumb to their romance. “Passion” by Peter Gabriel was playing on the iPod player. While she was taking in the scene, her man handed her a glass of champagne. “Dang, he must have really missed me!” Which worked out great since she missed him too. It wasn’t long before the champagne glasses were put down, and they found themselves making out on their bed. It’s the kind of making out where you KNOW the outcome. You KNOW you’re gonna get naked. You KNOW you’re gonna do it. There’s no question. There’s no discussion. There’s only the taking off of clothes. He kissed her passionately, and though he’d kissed her that way a thousand times, he still managed to make her feel like they were new in their relationship. Like they were still learning their rhythms, their timing, still discovering each other’s power. With their naked bodies pressed together, he slowly moved lower…..and lower…..and lower. Past her neck, with a momentary focus on her breasts, and then slowly down her quivering stomach, he reached….downtown. By this time she was throbbing down there, and couldn’t wait to feel his soft lips and tongue. He heartily obliged, with the expertise of someone who had been doing this long enough to know EXACTLY what sends her through the roof. And after providing unending moments of pleasure, he began to move his lips back up her stomach. But before she can moan any form of complaint, his hard cock moved in to place, and began to pleasure her in ways that lips and toungue cannot. And after providing unending moments of pleasure, he slowly and carefully removed it, and his lips began the descent again. And so it went for quite some time: a tag-team of toungue and cock; oral and fucking; clit and penetration. And with each switch, it sent her further and further to the edge. In her heightened state of pleasure she couldn’t decide when she’d rather let herself go. Should she wait until his tongue is firmly pressed on her clit? Or perhaps while his hard cock is deep inside her? Either one would provide the exact release she’d been craving for far too long now. She finally realized she could hold out no longer, while he happened to have his head buried between her legs. She moaned – or mumbled – some sort of (for lack of a better word?) warning. With both hands grasping the hair on his head, she felt the waves of ecstasy wash over her again and again….and again! Once he saw that she was basking in the beauty of it all, it didn’t take him long to insert his cock and reach his own ecstasy, all the while she was still pressing his hips firmly into hers. After they both settle down, he rolls off of her and onto his back next to her. They both stare at the ceiling and verbally pat themselves on their backs for still “having it” after all these years…

After much research, I have selected three main websites that I like for sex toys, lingerie, DVDs, etc.  Here’s the list, and I’ll give you a short explanation on why I chose them (in alphabetical order):

1.    Babeland – great selection, women-friendly, helpful reviews, buyers guides, easy navigation, informative
2.    Eden Fantasys – great selection, women-friendly, helpful reviews, easy navigation, informative
3a.  O 4 Her store (by Sex Toy Sex) – discount pricing, great selection, helpful reviews, user-friendly, bachelorette party category, Video On Demand available
3b.  O 4 Her Lingerie (by Sex Toy Sex) – discount pricing, selections are sexy and unique, easy navigation

In the near future, I will be making some purchases from these stores, and giving you my review (not only of the product, but of the website/services.)  Feel free to post your own review of these websites, or recommend other websites in the comments here.  The more details the better!

Happy shopping!

Well, I’ve been doing quite a bit of research – so that you don’t have to.  I’d like this site to be a place where you can get the 411 on all things sexy.  So far I have three categories in the “hopper”:

 Adult Sex Toy, DVD and Lingere Websites:  As I mentioned previously, I have been researching the ton of sites out there, to try and find ones that I can recommend.  I have narrowed it down to the top three (eventually, I’d like to list a lot more, along with some sort of review, but this is a start.)  I will be adding a “shopping” section to the site, with these three listed under it.

Sexy, Sensual, Erotic – Books, DVDs, CDs: What I’ve learned is that (what a surprise) Amazon is the best source for this stuff due to sheer volume, user-friendliness, and reputation.  So, I will be creating my own special store with hand-picked items that I recommend, or that I mention in a post.

Pole, Exotic, Lap, Sensual Dancing Classes:  This is the latest trend, ladies!  And to my utter delight, there are TONS of studios across the U.S. and the world that are offering this type of thing!  I am currently compiling a list, along with some basic info (city and state, studio name, website, type of classes, and cost.)  Once I have a decent list, I will post it.

Well, I think that’s it for now.  I know this post is sort of more of a “behind the scenes” update, but I just wanted you to know I am working hard to make this site fun and useful.  More to come soon!