You may look at the title of this post and say, “huh?” so let me explain.  I don’t know much about the deaf community.  But I had a great conversation today with a hearing friend of mine who has been taking sign-language classes.  As a by-product of learning to sign, she has also been introduced to some of the complexities of the deaf community that differ from the hearing community.  She also happens to have a mind similar to mine (she seems to gravitate to the sexual questions and observations.)  She was curious to know how a deaf guy would know during sex when his chick has cum, considering he would not be able to hear the “Ohhhhh!” (or some other form of audible confirmation.)  So, she mustered up the guts and asked one of her new deaf friends.  His response?  He said that the partially deaf would utilize their hearing aids, but if that option was not available they would be more “attentive”.  This piqued my friend’s interest, and mine as well.  And it made me draw the conclusion that in theory the deaf would make excellent lovers.  Wouldn’t you like to have a lover who concentrates on being attentive?  Who watches for and learns to recognize every move, every expression, every response – and reacts accordingly?  A lover who is acutely aware of the senses other than sound?  Who pays attention to detail?  Who notices the slightest change in your actions and reactions?  Wow.  I realize that the sounds associated with sex can be a huge turn-on for many people, but isn’t the bottom line about sensation?  And who better to fulfill that desire than someone who is accustomed to tuning in to and interpreting touch and sight?  Now, as I said before I am admittedly uneducated about the deaf.  And I realize that you can not classify any group of people that simply.  In fact, no doubt there are folks out there who have sexual experiences within the deaf community that would refute what I am saying – and rightfully so.  I am merely making a very general theory, based on a very limited viewpoint.  Nonetheless, I mean this theory to be a compliment to the deaf, and it is meant more as a commentary on how all of us could be more attentive during sex – and in general.  I think if we took the time to really pay attention to ALL of our senses, we would notice so much more and benefit greatly from it.  How many times have you been looking right at someone and not “seen” them?  How many times have you misinterpreted someone because you were unable to determine their “signals”?  How many times have you been frustrated that someone didn’t understand you because they were not paying attention?  So, the next time you find yourself sexually entangled with someone – do them (and yourself) a favor and really pay attention to ALL your senses.  I have a feeling you will noticeably improve the experience for both of you!