Are you looking for a good excuse to buy a new sex toy? Yup, I knew it! Well, I’ve got ya covered! St. Patricks Day!

Now, what the hell does the luck of the Irish have to do with buying a sex toy? I have no flippin’ idea, but who cares? It’s a celebration, right? And when we celebrate we buy things, right? Or, after a few green cosmo’s/beers/whatever you drink, you could go with the ever-popular excuse of “I was drunk at the time!” And last but not least, the best excuse in the book: “It was on sale!” There, plenty of excuses reasons!

Here are a couple coupon codes for sex toys. Happy St. Patrick’s Day. May the luck of the Irish be with you today and always!

Vibrator.com:
15% off storewide for the next 48 hours, coupon code: GOGREEN2011

Babeland.com:
Save $5 off a $50+ purchase, coupon code: MARCH5
Save $15 off a $100+ purchase, coupon code: MARCH15
Save $30 off a $150+ purchase, coupon code: MARCH30

Yep, February 22, 2011 has been officially named Lady Porn Day, thanks to Rachel Rabbit White (my new hero!) Here’s one of her recent tweets that sums it up:

“Esp. in terms of dealing w/ guilt or body image & sexuality. I want to empower girls who like porn & not erase those who dont.”

Exactly. On so many subjects, including porn and sex, we think we need to take a side and hate the other side. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s totally OK to like porn. It’s totally OK not to like porn. What’s important is knowing which one you are and why, and respecting the other camp. If porn ain’t your thing, no problem. And probably any further discussion of it is not necessary for you. I wish you a wonderful day and a wonderful life. Truly, I do!

Now, if you’re like me (a woman who enjoys porn), read on! I’ll bet one of the first things you’re saying is, “Yeah, I like porn but there’s not a lot out there for ME.” Yep, sad but true. Here’s why I think women have a problem finding porn:

1. Most porn is made BY and FOR men. This is true for both straight porn, and of course gay porn – which has hot guys, but not quite in the angles and positions that get your motor going. There is a smaller lesbian market, which has some hot girl-girl stuff going on, but would require a whole different post, so I’m focusing on straight porn here. You may think it is some diabolical plot against women but I think the reason is much more simple. Money. When you create a product, you go after the largest market share in order to gain the biggest profit. Who is the biggest market share for the porn industry? Men.

2. Women don’t buy/watch a lot of porn. I know, it’s a chicken and egg scenario. If there’s nothing out there for us, we’re not going to buy/watch it. But if we don’t make the effort to find something we like, and become a vocal consumer, this will not change.

3. Women have been taught that porn (and in general, a female enjoying sex) is wrong. And in fact we are getting that brainwashing from “both” sides. The conservative side says it is morally and spiritually wrong. And the liberal “feminist” tells us that porn is degrading to women. It’s no wonder we get a guilt trip regardless of our position on the religious/political/ethical continuum.

4. Women don’t feel comfortable talking about sex or porn. With anyone. Not our friends. Not our partners. My guess is that we are afraid of being judged by our female friends. And perhaps we are afraid to open up and expose our fantasies with our partners for fear of being rejected. Whatever the case, women don’t talk about sex and porn nearly as much as we THINK about it!

5. What women like is as varied and complex as what men like. Now, I realize the stereotypical “porn for chicks” is porn that has a story line, lavish sets, a sense of sensual pleasure and passion between the partners, isn’t too “out there” (whatever that means), and of course a handsome guy in it. And this is because a lot of women have said that’s what they want. But I’m here to tell you that this is only one segment of the female market. Women are turned on by much much more. Personally, I get annoyed when there’s too much story line and not enough sex. And as long as all involved look like they’re having a good time, I don’t NEED a lavish set or partners dripping with passion. The one component that is a deal-breaker for me is the guy. Yep, he has to be hot. Hey, we are talking about fantasy here. If the guy doesn’t turn me on, the porn doesn’t turn me on. Fortunately, the industry is finally getting hip to this, and is casting hot guys in porn. Woo hoo!

All of these barriers are starting to break down, but we’ve got a long way to go, baby. And not to sound cliche, but the change starts with YOU. Ladies, it’s time to make the effort to seek out what you like. Buy what you like. Get vocal about what you like (especially with your partner)! If you’re a bit shy, and aren’t up for going “public” yet with your interest in porn (talking about it with others, or going to an adult retail store), there’s a lot you can do privately from the comfort of your own home (or if you’re a bit more daring, your office), thanks to the internet:

1. Google lots of stuff like “porn for women”, “hot guys in porn”, popular porn for women”, and any other keywords that you are looking for. The more specific the better. If you fantasize about being tied up, Google those words! Find out what’s out there. You will also learn more about what you like or don’t like, the more you look.

2. There are tons of sex blogs by women out there. Each with their own personal viewpoint and recommendations. The more you find, the more you’ll find. Trust me – we sex bloggers like to connect! Start with my blogroll, and see where it takes you.

3. There are tons of sex toy websites out there. In addition to tons of DVDs for sale, they have forums and blogs with vocal women talking about what they like, and where to find it. A few of them are: Adam & Eve, Eden Fantasys, Babeland, and Good Vibrations. After doing some research, buy yourself a DVD – or two or three. If you find something you like, get other similar DVDs (same studio, same performers, same genre.)

4. If you want to watch something right away, and/or not spend a ton of money, check out an adult VOD (video on demand) website like Hot Movies For Her.

5. If you like a specific porn star, many of them have a personal website that you can subscribe to, and watch them in action on a regular basis. One pornstar and website that is popular with couples is Kelly Madison. She and her husband Ryan film their sexual encounters and share them with you. They put a lot of thought and energy into making short and entertaining story lines, sexy scenes, sex that’s hardcore but still tasteful, and they love their fans. Whether it’s Kelly, or another star, sometimes following someone specific can help you focus and explore your sexual desires.

6. Once you figure out what you like, SUPPORT what you like. Support your favorite bloggers by clicking on their links, and patronizing their sponsors/ads. Support your favorite adult retail website by buying their products and being active in their forums and blogs. Support your favorite adult websites by subscribing to them. They key to getting what you want, and more of it, is to speak up. And fortunately the internet provides you a way to do it annonymously – if you so desire, and still be heard. You have no excuse. You really don’t!

Well, this turned out to be a loooong post! I guess I’ve got some opinions, huh! Anyway, I hope this has been helpful. This is exactly the reason why I started this blog – because I think women need to talk more about sex and porn. So, let’s get to talking!

As I determined previously, I do live under a rock, but even I know it’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month! And you’d be hard-pressed to find a more worthy cause. If you’d like to feel good twice (once for supporting breast cancer survivors, and then again when you use your brand new sex toy), then head on over to Babeland and get yourself a little gift…

Hey ladies! I just wanted to get the word out about a new awesome blog out there. It’s from the folks at Babeland (awesome online adult store), and I just checked it out. Of course I loved it, so I added it to my Blogroll, but also wanted to put together a quick post about it. If you’re a Mom who believes that you can (and should) still be a sexual being, this blog’s for you!

One of the best online sex toy stores out there is having their semi-annual sale! Not only that, it’s stuff you actually want! Right now you can get 25% off the best selling toys of 2009. So, it’s kinda like the best of the best, he he. Head on over to Babeland online (or if you’re lucky enough to live in New York or Seattle, you can head on over to a Babeland store.) Now that all the holiday craziness is over, it’s time to relax and blow off some steam, all while saving money – I can’t think of a better New Years resolution than that!

Have you ever seen such a beautiful vibrator? The Jimmy Jane Little Gold is a sight to be seen. And when I saw that Babeland was offering it at a 45% discount, I just had to give a shout out. I realize that in this economy a  $175 vibrator may not sound like a deal, but consider that this baby usually sells for a whopping $325, and you’ll realize this is one amazing little deal! I’ve gushed about Jimmy Jane products before, and I really think they are the Rolls Royce of sex toys. But unlike a Rolls, the Jimmy Jane metallic line is also practical. Silent, body safe, waterproof (i.e. dishwasher, pool, refrigerator friendly), with a patented replaceable motor and a three year (limited) warranty, the Little Gold is a purchase you can feel good about as well as a purchase that makes you feel good!  No wonder Vogue.com calls it (and the others in the Little Something line) “…the most elegant and seductive accessory.” Don’t let this opportunity pass you by! Put this at the top of your holiday gift list, or just buy a “little something” for yourself!

Babeland, one of my favorite sex toy web sites, is celebrating it’s 15 year anniversary this month. What does this mean to you? It means you can buy their top 15 toys at a 15% discount! Yes, 15 is your new lucky number! Along with the discount, you will also receive a free bottle of Fresh Organic Lube with your purchase of the SaSi Vibrator, and a free Afterglow Candle with your purchase of the original Form 6 and Waterproof Form 6. If you are not familiar with those toys, I highly suggest you check them out (and the awesome customer reviews) over at Babeland!

In addition to the sale, Babeland is running a contest to give away a basket of ALL 15 Babeland All Stars (a value of $1,200) to customers who sign up for their Newsletter with the All Star Contest.
One of the 15 toys, and also one of the most popular sex toys around, is the Hitachi Magic Wand (see the picture above).  You should just read the Babeland customer reviews of this thing!  With over 100 reviews, it has a 5 star rating!  It’s moved to the top of my wish list for sure!!! (Hopefully my dude will read this not so subtle *HINT*!)  And if he doesn’t see or get the hint, I’ll gladly take matters into my own hands….literally!  He he he…..

Happy Anniversary Babeland!

About Babeland:
Babeland is recognized around the world as a friendly place to shop for sex toys, books, and videos. It is the premier bi-coastal, women-friendly sex toy store with a new shop in Brooklyn, two locations in New York City, a flagship store in Seattle, and a website: www.babeland.com. Founded in 1993, Babeland has received numerous honors in its fifteen years of business, including Zagat Survey Awards for “Top Service” in New York City in 2003 and 2006. It was voted “Best Place to Buy Sex Toys” by The Village Voice, New York Magazine, New York Press, Miami New Times, Seattle’s The Stranger, and the Seattle Weekly. Co-Founders Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah have been hailed as “new generation sex gurus” by Self Magazine.