OK, so I’m pretty liberal when it comes to females being viewed as sexual beings (notice I did NOT say sexual OBJECTS.)  There are many contexts where I think it is perfectly acceptable to see women as being sexual (porn, in particular cuz let’s face it - that’s what it’s all about!)  Strippers fall into […]

So, I consider myself to be pretty liberal when it comes to being attracted to different types of guys. I have enjoyed being intimate with a rainbow of men; of various cultures, colors, ages, backgrounds and the like. On a strictly physical standpoint, I think there are examples of good looking guys in […]

You may look at the title of this post and say, “huh?” so let me explain.  I don’t know much about the deaf community.  But I had a great conversation today with a hearing friend of mine who has been taking sign-language classes.  As a by-product of learning to sign, she has also been introduced […]

So, apparently I needed to look up some statistical data to determine my intuitive guess.  And just as I assumed, there are not a lot of women who have orgasms from intercourse - or that have them regularly at all.  I had arrived at this theory, not due to my own experience (I know, I’m […]

I want to preface this by saying that I have yet to truly explore my “lesbian” tendencies.  In fact, I really wasn’t aware of them until I found out who k.d. lang was many years ago.  Since then she has been the only consistent “influence” on me in that regard.  I can’t really tell you […]

Recently, my friend asked me this question in an e-mail.  And although this really has nothing specific to do with the usual chatter on my blog here, I thought it was worth sharing.  Who knows, maybe it could be applied to relationships?  Love?  Sex?…..Here’s my response: 
You know I never miss a chance to pontificate, so here’s my […]

So, I just recently watched the movie “Miss Potter”, which if you don’t already know is about the famous children’s book author.  In addition to enjoying an excellent movie, I was also struck by the extreme restrictions placed on women - particularly as sexual beings.  Not that I wasn’t already aware of this subject, but it […]

My friend and I were having a discussion today about soul-mates.  Do they exist?  How do you know?  Should we “hold out” until we’ve found ours?  What if only one person in the relationship sees his/her partner as a soul-mate?  Can you have a happy marriage if it’s not with a soul-mate?  These are all difficult questions, […]

These days the whole topic of “touching” is a touchy subject (cheesy pun intended!)  Now, certainly I recognize that there is an argument for our extremism.   In this current day and age, where priests have admitted to touching minors inappropriately, sexual harassment in the workplace is a common discussion, and convicted sex crime offenders can be tracked via […]

So, it’s been my observation that many 30 to 40-something women seem to be generally at peace with who they are by now.  They have had some experiences, gained some knowledge, and generally feel comfortable with who they have turned out to be - mentally and physically, and in particular sexually.  I find it ironic that […]